If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed. If you make your bed every morning, you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride, and will encourage you to do another task, and another, and another. By the end of the day, that one task completed will have turned into many tasks completed. Making your bed will also reinforce the fact that the little things in life matter. If you can’t do the little things right, you’ll never be able to do the big things right. If, by chance, you have a miserable day, you will come home to a bed that is made. That you made. And a made bed gives you encouragement that tomorrow will be better.
- Admiral William McRaven
Myth #1 - "I don't have any special skills to offer".
Most people think they can't start their own business because they don't have any special skills to offer people. This isn't true, here's why:
Starting a business isn't about having special skills, it's about helping other people solve their problems and get what they want in their life.
You're making it all about you and it isn't -- business is about helping other people.
Get our of your own head, stop looking at yourself, stop thinking about yourself and start looking at other people.
What do they want in life? Why don't they have it? What obstacles are standing in their way? These are the questions you should be asking others.
Become an observer of other people. Study them, obsess over them, fascinate yourself with them until you know more about them than they know about themselves.
Once you find a problem that's widespread among dozens of other people in the market -- think to yourself -- can I help these people solve this problem?
If you don't have the skills necessary to solve the problem for other people it doesn't matter. You can learn them.
Learning is easy, the problem is knowing what to learn. And by using this "market backwards" approach you can figure out *exactly* what you need to learn so that you can help other people and add real value.
Myth #2 - "I don't have enough money to do it".
Most people think they can't their own business because they don't have enough money to do it. This isn't true, here's why:
Almost every business can be tested to see if it's going to work before taking any financial or time risk. You start small by testing your business concept first.
First and foremost, your business idea should be derived from the market. You should have observed the market and found a widespread problem, pain and desire that people have.
Once you've found this, you should have come up with something you believe will solve this problem for people. Something that will get them what they want in life.
This is a divine moment: The coming together of a market problem and a potential solution to that problem.
At this stage all you need to do is speak to the market, start a conversation with the people that have the problem that you believe you can solve. If they ask you if you've solved this problem before, be honest, tell them that this is the first time.
Remember, things don't have to be fancy and perfect. You can offer your first customers a discounted price since it's your first time helping them. They will appreciate your honesty and eagerness to help them improve their own life.
Myth #3 - "I don't have enough time".
Most people think they can't start their own business because they don't have enough time. This isn't true, here's why:
Every human on planet earth has the same number of hours in a day. Many people start their own businesses with time constraints that are more extreme than yours.
People start their own businesses while being single parents with 2-3 young children AND working two full time jobs.
So what's your excuse? I'll tell you what it is, it's not time -- It's your priorities.
Plain and simple, you place more importance on things that give you instant gratification rather than the things that will give you the life of your dreams in the long term.
Things like watching tv, partying, playing computer games, hanging out with friends and basically anything that isn't being honest with yourself and taking action to build the life that you know you want for yourself.
Stop lying to yourself, you have enough time, you just chose to believe that you don't so that you feel more comfortable hiding in the dark and playing small.
- Sam Ovens
So about 10 years ago, my 2nd or 3rd ever job was McDonalds. I didn't even know what a vegetarian or a vegan was back then and it didn't cross my mind that animals were being treated badly. Or maybe it did, but it was not a thing for me back then.
I remember walking to the wash room sneakily with chicken nuggets in my pocket so I could snack up on the job. It's gross when I think about it now, stealing and sneakily scoffing chicken nuggets from my side pocket... but something I learnt and loved about McDonalds was this:
Clean As You Go
(And here's where I turn a McDonalds etiquette into an analogy about life... spotlight please..)
When you don't clean up your mess, it stacks up. This happens until we reach a thresh hold and either say NO MORE or just leave the place and ignore the mess.
But till then we are constantly living with that mess.
If you do a little bit of cleaning along the way, cleaning as you go... the mess never becomes a huge one.
When emotions build up in us and we don't know how to clear them, it turns into a huge mess, that we live with, in our passive aggression, or inauthentic nods of apathetic approval, or in the limits we tell ourselves about what is possible, till we just burst one day.
Of course these emotions are going to rise in us, we can't prevent that, but being able to CLEAN AS YOU GO, will ensure that these emotions don't rule your life, and that you can think with your head screwed on.
What do you do to clean/clear/acknowledge and flow through your emotions and feelings so that they are used productively to ensure your emotional stability for the LONG TERM?
When you wanna do something you feel uncomfortable with because of your own limiting beliefs or people's opinions about your behaviour...
Take them into consideration, but don't cut off the line of production.
When you cease momentum, you get used to it, and it becomes normal till something builds up and hurts so much that you reach an emotional thresh hold and go at it again.
We don't have to wait for those uncomfortable bursts if we consistently continue momentum through out.
As Will Smith says:
Fail early. Fail often. Fail forward.
My friendly annual spelling reminder!
Your - possession of something.
You're - this means 'you are'.
How was you're day?
Your not the one for me
It's you're fault
Your a good catch
You're perfect just the way you are!
The power is yours!
TAG ANYONE WHO NEEDS TO KNOW and be sure to practice with friends and loved ones.
Wtf are these things... so happy... so sad... and sometimes it's over the stupidest stuff, like someone not paying you attention, or the simplest stuff, like sitting in the sun.
But what happens to so many of us is an emotional imbalance. Meaning because of our judgements about right or wrong, we hold back our emotions from ourselves and others.
I'm not saying this is a bad thing, but it can cause an imbalance when we aren't easily flowing through the feelings we have, expressing them through breath, sound, movement, art, communication and so on.
What tends to happen is we don't feel worthy of expressing the energy we feel inside of us when in ecstatic joy or in anger, distrust, resentment and powerlessness.
And as we suppress, we live in a mindset that says, being ourselves is NOT OK.
Now at the same time, if you express how you're feeling, and you blame it on someone, or give it to them to deal with, or even hate yourself, if you or they take it personally, it can kill the nice vibe you have going. I GET IT.
But here's the thing. Emotions aren't personal, they are things that flow through you. Stop blaming them on yourself or on someone else, or something that happened, or the world... unless you want to give your power away to an external source.
By blaming, you don't express clearly, because you're technically saying 'my reality is someone else's creation'.
Wether that is true or not, it does not give you the power to create what you want in your life, it sets you back and simmers your own unique fire.
Look, no one cares if you shout your most demonic pain into a pillow, they didn't have to deal with. But the pain is power. How strong do you feel after you just GET IT OUT. Geez, I mean it's probably been in there for weeks or months, and you just keep holding it back, till you snap.
This is what I'm saying about imbalance...
There's either too much attachment to expression, and expressing only the right things, or there's no attachment, no responsibility, and you just go fully lethal and piss everyone off like Donald Trump.
Taking responsibility for the life you want to create means bringing the power back to yourself, dis-attached to the outcome of any expression, but knowing full well that this expression is something you've created through your thoughts and how they make you feel.
And if you think I'm wrong, how would you explain one person loving someone and another person hating that person?
It's context, and perception... and when we don't have a clue about these controlling factors that filter our emotions, we end up holding them back, and they can come out in other ways such as stress, illness, break ups, loss of friends, loneliness and depression, as well as a very short fuse.
Plus we aren't being authentic, so no one believes what we say!
Emotions! They are so intriguing, yet so unforgiving when we choose to ignore the power they hold.
If you care to, name one area of life that you hold back your emotions from time to time because of one reason or another.
You don't have to beat yourself up for not following through on your word.. (others will do that for you haha) ...
But the reason you don't follow through on what you say is because you don't highly prioritise whatever you're giving your word to.
It's not that you lack integrity and can't be trusted (which is true) ... it's that you don't fucking know what your highest priorities are, or you do but you're trying to believe otherwise, tell yourself a story.
I can usually feel out if I'll do something or not. If it's overwhelming in my head, I WONT DO IT, and if it's really important, I will make it less over whelming by turning it into easy quantifiable and scheduled steps that are linked to normal daily things I do.
If you're saying yes to things you don't want to do, verbally or non verbally, you may have some conditioning around being liked, being a people pleaser to receive significance, not wanting to step on anyone's toes, OR, you're living in your IDEALS, and denying your present feeling on the subject, therefore ignoring your highest priorities and pushing yourself to be something you're not, rather than accepting who you have been, your track record, and moving forward from that space.
You know what your highest priorities are by looking at what you do most over a weeks span.
Integrity comes EASY, it's not even a thing, when you come to terms with your highest values, and you present yourself authentically in these values.
That can take bravery, and maybe even a deep breath, some introspective, and a willingness to be real with yourself and someone else.
Pushing yourself to be there on time, pushing yourself to do something on time, saying yes to things you don't wanna do, people you don't wanna see, and then being late, or unenthused and not present, or never doing the things you said you would...
All that shit brings pressure, guilt, shame, death of relationships...
Firstly get real with yourself and what you want, know what your priorities are, link your priorities to your goals if you want to achieve them, and link your priorities/values to your words and actions if you want integrity.
Integrity is not something you have to push yourself into. It comes with ease when we are willing to align with who we actually are and what we most highly prioritise. Because then you will naturally want to do what ever that is you're saying yes to, BECAUSE YOU PRIORITISE IT, VALUE IT, AND DO IT ALL THE TIME ANYWAY.
Be yourself to become 'more' yourself.
Does this make sense?
You can't just 'have compassion'... you need to understand what was driving the person to do that thing you despised, and relate it to something you've EXPERIENCED in your own life that had a relatable core human need driving the behaviour.
The reason we are so triggered by what others do is because we are so hard on ourselves for those same things. To truly be like Jesus, loving the people that whip and throw stones and nail him to the cross, you need to understand why they are that way, and see that they just have a core need, just like everyone else in this world, that needs to be met.
At the birth, and at the heart, everyone is an innocent being, we just got screwed up along the way, and use different methods to get our needs met. Some of them are considered good, and some horrendous, but if you want to have compassion for yourself and others, you first need to understand what's driving someone.
And remember, the same shit you're so cut about in other people is the same stuff you would hate in yourself, and that hate breeds more hate. Understanding and compassion breeds love and connection, and freedom from the hurt and triggers.
This chart explains the needs that drive every human behaviour. Enjoy!
The guy in this picture (I know him pretty well) is six feet, zero inches tall and weighs 220 lbs.
Rear Admiral Dr. Ronny Jackson would like you to know that Pres. Trump -- who is six feet, three inches tall -- weighs 239 lbs.
You should also know that, somewhat unusually for a 71 year-old man taking Crestor, Ambien, and Propecia, the President is in "excellent mental and physical health."
The Admiral went so far as to predict that the President's health is a sure bet through a second term. Think of that!
“It is called genetics ... ” Jackson said. “Some people have just great genes. I told the President that if he had a healthier diet over the last 20 years, he might live to be 200 years old.”
If only those people from shithole countries had such proud genetics...
All the nope, Chelsea.
I don't understand liberal support for Manning. While serving as a soldier sworn to work within her CoC to defend the United States, she turned her back on fellow soldiers at the risk not of her life, but of ours.
That doesn't make her an icon. It makes her a traitor.
Neither her subsequent suffering, nor her journey of sexual identity, indemnify that treachery. She owns that. The co-owner is Julian Assange.
He hasn't proven much of a hero, either.
Y'all! Hands down, if you're a wedding photographer, you HAVE to go to Julie Hinson Paisley's how to be published workshop!! Whoa! Mind blown! Totally one of the very best workshops I have ever attended!
So I found this picture I took before my first wash with Monat at the end of Sept. I have had a trim since then but look at the difference in my hair. I will never use another product! Hair on the left was 2 days since shampoo, hair on the right was 4 days since shampoo. I also have frizzy curly hair but I just blow dry and curl on the first day and I’m good except for a little dry shampoo and touch up. Not trying to be a salesman, this girl is waaaay to busy for that, but I can send you a link and tell ya what to buy! You won’t be sad! Michelle Thompson
Texas !!!! The Hybrid Collective it’s in San Antonio this May!!!! The speakers are my dream ❤️ I will be doing hair and Makeup for some of these style shoots ❤️https://thehybridcollective.regfox.com/the-hybrid-co
If your looking for some fun live music tonight, go check out OOLALA / Mutts / David Fantasy & Adult Content at Johnny Brenda's.
I was asked to help out with their album and play drums on a couple of songs a few years ago. I really love how the whole thing turned out. Plus Tim Sonnefeld always gets great sounds in the studio and is always a blast to work with. He makes my drums sound good!
I don’t use any music streaming services- I’d rather listen to music that i paid for or simply use YouTube.
Heres is a pretty good article why i feel the way i do about Music streaming and the disservice it does to the music industry.
VIA CongressmanTed Lieu on twitter....
Verified account @tedlieu
2h2 hours ago
Why Senators Cotton & Perdue are likely lying:
-Trump did not initially deny saying shithole
-Trump bragged to friends he made stmt
-WH did not initially deny stmt
-Senators Graham & Durbin confirm stmt
-Original story came from sources in the room other than Graham or Durbin
"How do I know these Education Reformers haven't a clue about what makes a difference in our public schools? Because, all they talk about are test scores and standards, not about the books that sing to us.
There are books that sing. Mrs Stansfield was an outstanding Black Honors teacher. I am blessed for having been one of her students. When we read Maya Angelou Angelou's "I Know Why The Cage Bird Sings" she made sure we heard that book's song in out hearts, our minds, and our souls. Maya wrote: “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”
Teachers made a difference, the books we read make a difference, and learning to write these songs we hold in our hearts makes a difference.
What should we be fighting for? Those books that sing to the hearts of our children.
I don't want more rubrics,
I don't want your data crunchers,
I want Teachers that understand,
Books that sing to our hearts matter,
Writing our untold stories matter."
PODCAST: "Dr. King and Donald Trump's America”
Host Kevin Powell delivers a passionate and captivating solo take on the life and legacy of Dr. King, then and now. Free-flowing, historical, and of these times too,
Kevin does a deep dive into the whole man, not just the fragments many of us have been taught since childhood. Featuring speech snippets of Dr. King’s
(and a surprising moment from Bobby Kennedy, too), this podcast is also a meditation on America today, directly, indirectly, and how much
has changed (or not) since Martin Luther King, Jr. walked this earth.
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[taps glass with fork] Attention, people who have been thinking about traveling to study with me! I'll be teaching a week-long master class at Hedgebrook, the women's writing retreat on Whidbey Island, from April 24th to May 1st. Priority deadline for applications is January 23rd! As in, this Tuesday. Sorry, it sorta snuck up on me. Hedgebrook will continue taking applications after this date, but I'll start reviewing and approving applications on 1/24. Class is suitable for all levels of writers. Hedgebrook is heaven on earth and is doing incredibly important work with women writers from all over the world. I donate my teaching time; your fees support vital programs. I've never been anywhere more conducive to getting writing and thinking (and dreaming) done--you come away from Hedgebrook with your cells rearranged. Also, the food is delicious. The class will be held to just six writers. More info in link:
There is smoke in the air where I live so often - esp in cold weather -- that I really think it is in violation of EPA or the state clean air act. But is there any way to even address the issue? Yeh sure! Go to the county commission and plead with them to do something about it. Like what? Like prohibit yard waste burning -- or maybe all wood burning. Wood smoke is TOXIC guys! Who cares? This morning such acrid smoke everywhere in my community, gave me a headache INDOORS. Who TF knows what caused it? WTF cares? Called Fire Dept. They must've figured it out cuz I never saw them. But as I left, the air looked like Pittsburgh or Detroit in the early 1970's. Or L.A. at the worst. NOTE: I LIVE IN A DENSELY WOOD CONSERVATION AREA!!